Divided & Conquered

I know this sadly dysfunctional family, long ago broken apart by divorce, precipitated by progressive and unchecked mental illness.

As the three children were growing up, things didn't seem so bad as much as just not "normal". At first, Mom just seemed agitated, and Dad didn't see too much to be alarmed by. All of these things were well hidden. Dad, grandparents, neighbors, friends - none of them could quite see the forest for the trees.

As the years went on, Mom effectively undermined the relationships between each of the kids and between the kids and their Dad. Mom even made sure that it was drilled into the kids that there was no one whom they could ever trust, but her. Mom did this by terrifying the kids in various ways, starting when they were all very young. She divided and conquered. She owned them.

As the two oldest children were now adults, and the youngest still a teenager, Mom had arranged to have all three of the children in the car on the freeway, late at night. It was a simple trip home from a family wedding party.

By now, Mom's mental health had deteriorated to a disastrous point. When one of the older children asked Mom a question, Mom deemed it a challenge and snapped.

Mom put her foot on the accelerator, and began driving all over the freeway - in traffic. All three of the children were scared to death, and the oldest son tried to wrestle control of the car from her from the passenger seat, while they were traveling in excess of 80 to 90 miles per hour. The teenager in the back seat just checked out mentally - he shut down.

Want to know what happened? Everyone is still alive. But they're not without grave scars from this ordeal and others. The children don't even have much to do with each other.

This story is just like what's happening today in our country. Our "mother", our government, our public servants, have gone nuts. They're utterly dysfunctional, and as leaders, they've sought to separate us from each other, and they've been totally successful. The republicans are demonstrating no leadership for their adherents, and the democrats aren't demonstrating any leadership to get things done.

Even if the car doesn't crash, the carnage is already apparent. And it will effect everything we do and everything we are from this point forward.

The World May Heretofore End..Two Posts, 1 Day

Alright. Now I'm pissed. Steaming mad. Fuming.

The "save marriage for hate mongers" group has gone yet another step too far.

So I reciprocated.

A young girl, age 9 knocks on my door (just a few minutes ago), and asks me to sign a petition to "Keep Marriage Between a Man and a Woman". I looked around, and since I live a relatively low density urban location, I expected to see an appropriate escort for the girl. All I saw down the hill was a car and two other children of similar age at other houses.

I didn't want to scare the girl, but I asked her why on earth would she be doing this with her summer vacation? She said her family's church wanted them to do it. Regardless of the fact that I'd LOVE to publicize the name of the church doing this here, I know good people who go there (not to mention the pastor), and I know they don't agree with this. But...I will be talking to them tonight, I guarantee you.

This is the SECOND time that I have been hit up by a young girl for this petition. Last time was in front of a local store, where I did give her mother and her father what-to-for making her be the front person for their chicken-shit petition.

I -WE- are straight allies, or so they tell me we are called.

My best friend, Brian, is gay. My aunt is gay. My husband's college roommate is gay. And that list goes on and on.

Telling me, as the young lady was told to tell me, that "marriage is for raising a family..." I proceeded to tell her that I don't have children. I wasn't able to have my own children. So that means that I shouldn't be married, right? Her response: "I...uh...guess so." (she was getting really uncomfortable here). (I have a gazillion step-children by the way.)

I then asked her, "suppose you grow up and can't have children? And maybe that's the way God wants it...because otherwise, surely, you'd be able to have children, right? And you want to grow up and get married, right? So how would that work, if you couldn't have children?"

She started to cry. Yes, I made an abused child cry. But I think she'll remember it. And I hope someday, she'll think about it. I can only hope. You cannot think this all the way through and have it make sense.

HERE'S MY MESSAGE: IF YOU ARE USING YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACHING THEM THESE THINGS AND NOT TEACHING THEM TO THINK INSTEAD, YOU ARE ABUSING YOUR CHILDREN, MENTALLY & EMOTIONALLY. STOP IT.